THE ACHIEVER
The Success-Oriented, Pragmatic Type: Adaptive, Excelling, Driven, and Image-Conscious
Threes try to deny their shame, and are potentially the most out of touch with underlying feelings of inadequacy. Threes learn to cope with shame by trying to become what they believe a valuable, successful person is like. Thus, Threes learn to perform well, to be acceptable, even outstanding, and are often driven relentlessly in their pursuit of success as a way of staving off feelings of shame and fears of failure.
Threes are self-assured, attractive, and charming. Ambitious, competent, and energetic, they can also be status-conscious and highly driven for advancement. They are diplomatic and poised, but can also be overly concerned with their image and what others think of them. They typically have problems with workaholism and competitiveness. At their Best: self-accepting, authentic, everything they seem to be—role models who inspire others.
Basic Fear: Of being worthless
Basic Desire: To feel valuable and worthwhile
Key Motivations: Want to be affirmed, to distinguish themselves from others, to have attention, to be admired, and to impress others.
Biblical figure: JACOB, SAUL, JOSEPH
Threes are image conscious. They have an uncanny ability to appear successful and important, regardless of the crowd. They tend to forget their identity around their successes.
Jacob fights with his brother, Esau, in the womb. He devises a plan with his mom Rebekah to steal the birthright . As his father lays on death’s door, Jacob pretends to be Esau, receives his father’s blessing. After hearing this, Esau is furious, which forces Jacob to flee. On the journey, he has a dream that includes (wait for it) a ladder. Ascent and descent, climbing up and down ladders. Threes relate to these ideas well.
Other famous Threes: Oprah Winfrey, Justin Bieber, Scarlett O’Hara (Gone With the Wind), Ron Weasley (Harry Potter)
Strengths:
You’re driven and success-oriented, sometimes to the point of caring more about how you appear to others than you should. But you’re faithful and focused—a lot like Moses.
Personal Growth Recommendations
For our real development, it is essential to be truthful. Be honest with yourself and others about your genuine feelings and needs.
Develop charity and cooperation in your relationships. You can do this by taking time to pause in a busy day to really connect with someone you care about.
Take breaks. You can drive yourself and others to exhaustion with your relentless pursuit of your goals.
Develop your social awareness. Working cooperatively with others toward goals that transcend personal interest is a powerful way of finding your true value and identity.
Threes adapt so much to the expectations of others that they lose touch with what they are really feeling about the situation. Develop yourself by resisting doing what is acceptable just to be accepted. It is imperative that you invest time in discovering your own core values.
Enneagram and Coffee – Failure is necessary growth
Craig Groeschel — You don’t need the praise of people when you have the approval from God
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