THE INDIVIDUALIST
The Sensitive, Withdrawn Type: Expressive, Dramatic, Self-Absorbed, and Temperamental
Fours attempt to control their shame by focusing on how unique and special their particular talents, feelings, and personal characteristics are.
Fours are self-aware, sensitive, and reserved. They are emotionally honest, creative, and personal, but can also be moody and self-conscious. Withholding themselves from others due to feeling vulnerable and defective, they can also feel disdainful and exempt from ordinary ways of living. They typically have problems with melancholy, self-indulgence, and self-pity. At their Best: inspired and highly creative, they are able to renew themselves and transform their experiences.
Basic Fear: That they have no identity or personal significance
Basic Desire: To find themselves and their significance (to create an identity)
Key Motivations: Want to express themselves and their individuality, to create and surround themselves with beauty, to maintain certain moods and feelings, to withdraw to protect their self-image, to take care of emotional needs before attending to anything else, to attract a "rescuer."
Biblical figure: JOSEPH - DAVID
Fours are creative and sensitive types. They always feel like they’re missing something. Fours are fixated on being special, different, and authentic.
Joseph with his coat of many colors and David with his musical skills and emotion-filled Psalms.
Other famous Fours: Thomas Merton, Edgar Allan Poe, Rey (Star Wars), Loki (Thor)
Strengths:
You feel deeply and emotions are central to your experience—as is being unique.
Personal Growth Recommendations
Do not pay so much attention to your feelings; they are not a true source of support for you, as you probably already know. Remember this advice: "From our present perspective, we can also see that one of the most important mistakes Fours make is to equate themselves with their feelings.
Avoid putting off things until you are "in the right mood." Commit yourself to productive, meaningful work that will contribute to your good and that of others, no matter how small the contribution may be.
Self-esteem and self-confidence will develop only from having positive experiences, whether or not you believe that you are ready to have them.
A wholesome self-discipline takes many forms, from sleeping regular hours to working regularly to exercising regularly, and has a cumulative, strengthening effect. Therefore, practice healthy self-discipline and stay with it.
Avoid lengthy conversations in your imagination, particularly if they are negative, resentful, or even excessively romantic.
Enneagram and Coffee - Feelings are not facts
Craig Groeschel — God did not call you to blend in but to stand out
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